African American men face a litany of challenges daily. More than 75% of 135 men interviewed for a study on micro-aggressions, expressed experiencing a form of racism and/or discrimination during the course of any given day. Unfortunately, sometimes these transgressions happen within the walls of their own homes. African-American men postulate that words of affirmation from those closest to them have the ability to help propel them beyond the depth of anxiety and depression as they realize their efforts are appreciated and others see their full potential is within reach! These are just a few of the statements men find themselves drawn to. Try them out for the next 30 days and see if you can report a change in how he responds to you and the direction of your relationship overall.
I am so proud of who you are.
Thank you for loving me, even when I’m not that loveable.
I love you more today than any day before.
I can’t wait to experience the rest of life with you.
Your decisions, hard work, and loving heart make me so proud to be your wife.
You understand me more than anyone. I can’t believe how lucky I am to have you.
I can’t wait till you get home from work!
I missed you so much today!
How can I make you feel more loved?
How can I try to understand you better?
I’m praying for you today. You’ve got this!
I feel so safe with your protection.
I will always respect and honor you.
I can’t wait to tell my friends how you helped me!
You provide so much for us.
Your arms are the only place I want to be.
You can always make me laugh. I’m so happy I have you!
You can trust me.
If that’s where you want to lead us, I will follow your decision.
I love knowing that you want me.
I only want you.
I love doing projects together. Hard work and laughter is the best with you!
I admire your integrity and I know others do too.
I still have moments where I am speechlessly thankful for our marriage.
I know we don’t always see eye to eye, but it’s reassuring to know we are always on the same team.